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Saturday, 17 April 2010 08:30

 

 

Facebook Do's and Don'ts Part 2

 

By K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky

 

What Every Facebooking Couple Should NOT DO to Protect Their

Marriage! 

(DON’T) Write cutting remarks or negative statements about your spouse. Even though Facebook asks, "What’s on your mind," it doesn’t mean everyone really wants to know the answer to that question.  If in doubt, think about how your comments will be read by others (think about your mother-in-law, your boss, your pastor) before pushing the Share/Comment button.

(DON’T) Friend exes, old flames, past flings, former crushes or anyone you’ve been intimate with in the past. What starts as an innocent, "I wonder whatever happened to so-and-so" can lead to "I never meant for this to happen." Friending exes’ invites an unnecessary threat into your married life that can cause any or all of the following: anxiety and insecurity for your spouse, friction and isolation in your marriage, and unrealistic and senseless ideas in your head.  If staying FB Friends  is a bad idea for a broken up (dating) couple, then it’s a really, really bad idea for married couples.

(DON’T) Lose track of how much time you spend on Facebook. Everyone needs a little down time to unwind each day.  Facebook can be a great way to wind down (e.g. connect with FB Friends, play games, find Groups and Fan Pages, etc). On average, users spend 12-15 minutes a day on Facebook. That seems like a healthy dose of daily Facebook intake. If time on the online social community infringes on your real-time marriage relationship, make changes to reprioritize your time.  Set a timer for 15 minutes and then log off Facebook and turn off the computer.

(DON’T) Report that you or your spouse is out of town. This is more security than anything else.  Say your husband is on a business trip and you post an update that he is out of town. What you think is a harmless Status Update is an announcement to the bad guys that your home, possessions and family are vulnerable and a prime target for bad things to happen.  Do you really know all of your FB Friends?  How about their Friends?  A FB Friend’s comment to your Status Update can unknowingly broadcast your "my husband is gone" news to a bunch of people you really don’t know.

Share your username and password with one another. Transparency is crucial to ensure trust in a committed relationship.  Exchanging login information provides accountability and emotional security for both of you

(DON’T) Have private Chat sessions with people of the opposite sex. Chats are a private, real time message exchange between two people.  Once a person logs off, Chat sessions are erased forever.  Emotional affairs have three main ingredients: secrecy, chemistry and intimacy.  Chatting provides a perfect environment for the three ingredients to mix together and create a situation that supposedly "just happened".  Avoid the drama and turn off the Chat feature altogether.

(DON’T) Let Facebook be a distraction during your time with your mate. Not only can writing a Status Update steal time from your couple time, but reading someone’s bad news can steal your mind from your special time together.  Make date nights, special moments, and times of intimacy Facebook-free.  No laptops, no computers, no smart phones when it is time for you and your spouse.

 

 

 

This article was originally published at http://www.growthtrac.com/

 

Last Updated on Saturday, 17 April 2010 08:36
 
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